Don’t you hate pop quizzes? No opportunity to study. Teacher just springs them on you. It’s like you should have been paying attention to what they were talking about in class. Damn and double damn! Well I’m still reading The Single Trap by Andrew G Marshall and I can’t praise it enough. What I love about his book is that it gives practical reasons and advice on how to prize open the metal jaws of the single trap. So if you are single and for some reason you are finding it difficult to meet that special someone I recommend that you read it.

Recently as part of the exercise section I had to do a dating audit. It really opened my eyes to the consequences of my dating life until now. And if I were to sum it up into one phrase what I’d say to you is ‘Serendipity my arse’. There are rational and emotional reasons for why I am single. There are reasons why I have chosen to date the men in my past. There clear reasons that I missed why these relationships did not work out. If you want to be in a relationship, then like me, you need to start asking yourself some questions.

So this week I’m giving you the Love Pop Quiz. It’s a combination of things I’ve learned from my life and also the plethora of relationship books I’ve read recently! Let me know if it helps you to think differently about your love life past or present.

1. How have you met previous partners?
2. How does that differ from the way you meet people today?
3. Do you have a wide social circle?
4. Has your social circle changed? And how?
5. How have you made friends in the past?
6. Can you think of three ways that you could make new friends that you would enjoy?
7. Describe your previous partners.
8. Do they have common personality traits?
9. List the pros and cons of each of your former significant relationships.
10. Describe the person that you want to meet like you’re putting a shopping list together.
11. Now describe that person from the inside out.
12. How would you describe yourself to someone who doesn’t know you?
13. Do you expect others to see your finer points and overlook your lumps and bumps?
14. Do you expect your date to have everything on your list or are you open to taking a risk?
15. How do you feel when you think about going on a date?
16. What do you want from a relationship?
17. Do you talk to people that you meet in your everyday life?
18. When did you last flirt with someone outside a bar or club? For example in the supermarket.
19. When was the last time you made a new friend either a male or female?
20. Are you happy with yourself?

Twenty questions. Let me know how you get on.